One thing the internet is going to do is repeat the same phrases over and over until people start treating them like facts. One of the biggest ones I hear constantly?

Sometimes the best times that are had, come from impulsive decisions and not second guessing yourself. I speak about my 40 before 40 list in previous blog posts and Greece has always been on my list of places I wanted to travel to. When I think of traveling to Greece, I think expensive, maybe a honeymoon destination or even just a romantic getaway with a partner. I never in a million years thought that in 2026, I would have been on a solo trip in Greece! Last month, my birthday trip to Thailand had been canceled due to the war  and yes I was bummed, but because this was a safety concern, I knew everything was going to be okay (after all... people are dying smh). If you would have told me that instead of Thailand, I would have been in Greece a month later, there's no way I would have believed you. 

From what I can remember, I have always been a fairly confident person. I may have been more shy and reserved in my younger years, but I never really had an issue with holding a conversation, walking into a room or presenting myself in a strong way. From the outside, I believe I presented myself in a way that I knew who I was. 

Dear Younger Me,

"Life be Life-ing". Bills are due, responsibilities are real, and being spontaneous can feel replaced with mortgage payments, car notes, unexpected roof replacing (me this year), and trying to maintain (especially in this economy).  Somewhere along the way, many people believe that traveling is reserved for the rich. I disagree.

There was a time when being single was treated and looked at as a problem to solve. As if a woman without a partner must be lonely, incomplete, or waiting for real life to begin.

Your 30s are complicated. Careers are evolving (or not), friendships are shifting, relationships are thriving or falling apart. Not to forget that society loves making us feel like we are running out of time for this, that and the other. It's a lot. And yet, we're supposed to have it altogether, right?

There's a quiet role many of us step into in our 30s.

"Booked and Busy" sounds cute...until you realize you're tired, overwhelmed, and haven't had a moment to yourself in weeks. At some point, we stopped asking if we're okay and started proving how much we can handle instead. This is true for personal, work, life and just in general. Work-Life balance isn't just about time management. It's about boundaries. And more importantly, it's about choosing yourself without guilt. 

Let's be honest here, sometimes the club/bar scene just isn't it anymore. The crowds?  Overpriced drinks? And waking up the next day questioning your life choices? Hard PASS. My friends and I decided to be more intentional with our time together. And let me tell you...craft night is everything. 

Buckle down for this one because it's about to get real. Real vulnerable. Real personal.

Let me start with a little honesty: Im not the biggest fan of online dating.

One thing about me is that I love new experiences. From attending my first pottery class this year to skydiving. I love doing things that push me out of my comfort zone and remind me that life is meant to be lived, not just planned. 

My weight has fluctuated more times than I can count.

If you're a woman in your 30's and single, there's one question that seems to follow you everywhere.

For most of my adult life, I've been following a script.

I was born to two hardworking immigrants from Trinidad and Tobago. Hardworking. Disciplined. Sacrificial. The kind of parents who didn't play when it came to education. In our house, the formula was clear: Get good grades. Go to college. Earn your degree. Start your career. Get married. Start a family. Start your life.